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Are you successful? If you are, why? What makes you successful?

Society has portrayed success in our capacity to acquire high occupational status, financial wealth, or social standing or network. A king, CEO, entrepreneur, or a 16 YouTuber with 500K subscribers would most likely fit in this special category. Men and women such as Elon Musk, Oprah Winfrey, Warren Buffet, and Kamal Harris have influenced the world in ways unlink many before them but everyday we all influence someone in some shape or form. Maybe not as many at one time, but we still influence others on a regular basis. Success seems like such a vague term but in society appears very black and white. So, how do we define it?

Merriam-Webster’s definition of failure: a lack of success in some effort. 2. a situation or occurrence in which something does not work as it should. 3. an occurrence in which someone does not do something that should be done.

I conclude that successful people are individuals who put forth a lot of effort to achieve a particular goal that has to be done. Furthermore, what should be done has to be done consistently over time to be observed as more successful. In America we say you can do anything or be anything if you work hard. Hard work equating to doing something to the fullest of your ability and completing the task at hand over time and gain the rewards in the form of promotions, raises, pay, status….etc. I completely agree with the definition, but I profusely disagree with our societal interpretation of success.

Jeff Bezos, by the aforementioned definition would be incredibly successful. His work efforts are probably second to none. I am sure you’ve seen the infamous photo of his office back in the 80’s with the handmade Amazon sign on the floor. Or the wild stories about him sleeping in his office for days. He worked hard, accomplished his goal of changing the world and made a BOAT load (I should say “several fleets “) worth of money. He is successful. The problem is that in America, the standard is always raised and set at the highest level. In other words, when we see someone who does something better than the rest and they do it for a long time society tends to believe the observation becomes the “norm.” I call….

Tom Brady, a professional football, player for more than years, has won the Super Bowl 6x and is still playing at age 45. For several years now many have praised Tom Brady for playing so long in addition to belittling other quarterbacks in National Football League for not being able to win championships at a younger age like he does. The fact is, Tom Brady is his own person and has his own life. He has managed to stay relatively healthy sustaining only one major injury over the course of 20 years. One hit is equivalent to a car crash. In 2008 Tom Brady was hit 54 times. The most that season was over 80. Guess what, that guy doesn’t play in the league any longer. My point being that the best does not equate to the norm and we have to remember that those special individuals are special for a reason…because they are them and not you!

I get it, we wish we had their success but they’re several flaws in that thinking. One, we will never have the same opportunities to accomplish what he has to acquire where he is and two, we have no idea about what struggles he had to over to get. Lastly, just because we consider him successful, does not mean that everyone else is a failure because we have not done what he has. It just means we are different.

I would hardly call an African American family man, father, and small real estate investor who almost lost his life while on serving his community as a firefighter a failure simply because his bank account isn’t the size of a small countries debt.

Would you call a mother who raised ten children while running a successful cleaning business and starting her own podcast a failure? Probably not!

Somewhere there is a 97yrs. old elderly woman sitting in a wheelchair watching Golden Girls, Judge Judy, or some kind of wack ass midday TV. She go through her days in mild content with small outburst here and there. When her family visits, she barely knows who is who but has moments of clarity to shed a smile of love. Would you call her a failure?

In my opinion, success is a choice and everyone has the ability to choose how they define it. Although we as humans hold particular individuals in high regards for their accomplishments which elevates their status, wealth, and power, we as individuals give them this elevation as a whole. Imagine that Jeff Bezos lost his company and all his money, would you look at him the same? If Kamala Harris was caught money laundering through a nonprofit she created and later impeached, would society hold her in high regard? The power of success is within all of us and defined by what we choose. I would call a firefighter who walked away from a fire to see his family each successful. I would call a mother who’s children understand the idea of respect and call people “sir” and “ma’am” successful. Especially when she has home schooled them all. I would call 97 years spent raising a family of children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren and becoming the matriarchy to a clan a success. I woke up today…SUCCESS!

Put everyone on WAIVERS!!!

Consciously giving consistent effort into ventures that we deem worthy is my definition of success. Somewhere in the world, a mother is holding her child for the first time. In anther part of the world, someone looks into their lovers eyes and says “I do”. Sitting at a desk, someone finishes putting their thoughts to paper. I understand that we should praise those for accomplishing amazing task, but I think it’s more important that we feel equally accomplished at the top of the mountain as we do when we look in the mirror. This feeling shouldn’t happen here and there, it should be everyday when we see ourselves in the mirror and know that we did something today which is being alive: the greatest accomplishment period. Their is nothing that states success as a particular point in time. It’s everywhere around us, we just have to be aware that it’s there every step of the way along our journey. And hat’s why the journey is always worth more than the destination!

Bon voyage

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